Compulsive liars bend the truth about everything large or small. For a compulsive liar telling the truth is very awkward and uncomfortable while lying feels right. Unlike sociopaths, they are not overly manipulative and cunning, rather they simply lie out of habit. Compulsive lying is usually thought to develop in early childhood, due to being placed in an environment where lying was necessary .
But how do compulsive liars get so good at telling lies? You may think that it's the frequency with which they practice lying, but there is far more to it than that. The best liars actually learn to believe what they are saying. Sometimes, they believe their lies so well that they actually come true.
And even though this may be a negative demonstration of a positive principle, it applies to something that we might sometimes want or even need.
You see sometimes we need to delude ourselves, to pull the wool over our own eyes.
If we believe that something we want - even if it seems outlandish - is definitely possible, and if we talk about it that way and think about it that way, we will be able to make it happen eventually.
When I was younger, I was very outspoken, I would simply be all out there when it came to expressing myself. I was kown for my strong opinions and the passionate defense of every idea, concept or perception I believed to be true and right. With time and experience I learned how to tone it down a bit, to be more "diplomatic" as they say - although I really don't like the connotation this word implies - without having to compromise or agreeing to something I was not convinced with.
So instead of wearing my heart on my sleeve, this approach encouraged people to drag my opinion out of me which really improved my communication skills and my ability to "give and take" in any serious and important conversation. I learned that there is no right or wrong, but rather what is good and acceptable for one person and what is inconvenient and ill-favoured for others. This made people respect me more and regard me as a good listener, a confidant and an objective and understanding person.
But sometimes I feel like I am going against the flow, like I am swimming upstream or against the current, which is a hard thing to do - only salmon fish manage to do it successfully during their mating season :) - but this feeling doesn't last long before I realise that I shouldn't change who I am or what I believe in just because a group of people, no matter how large that group is, doesn't agree with it or worse, doesn't accept it at all.
So, when you find yourself outnumbered and it may seem like everyone is against you, or at least as if they don't share your opinion on a hot topic, don't let it get to you; you are not wrong. Keep following your heart, even if it leads you against the current. Eventually you will get where you need to go.
The "tunnel of love" was a carnival ride commonly found at amusement parks during the early twentieth century. It consisted of two-person boats that travelled along a narrow waterway through a dark tunnel. During a time when public affection was forbidden, it gave lovers the excuse to cling to each other. When you entered, it could be frightening because you didn't know what you would experience along the way.
It is a metaphor for real-life love. When you enter that ride, you don't know what to expect, but it can be exhilarating. A series of ups and downs and twists much like every relationship goes through. But sometimes, just as we begin to feel that we're stuck in a rut and/or reaching an impasse something happens that turns everything upside down and actually makes our love life far more exciting and enchanting.
The Dodo is an extinct flightless bird that lived on the island of Mauritius, east of Madagascar. The last accepted sighting of this bird was in 1662. It's believed that it became flightless because of the abundance of its food source, and the relative absence of predators. Ironically, its evolved inability to fly is what damned it to extinction, because it was eventually preyed upon by hungry sailors, domesticated animals, and invasive species that were introduced back then.
Don't be a Dodo!
Sometimes we face very intricate challenges, ones that appear to be very tough, ones that weigh us down, especially if they threaten to shake our innermost core.
But no matter how tough these trials may seem, we should always remember that we are stronger than any given circumstance and that we can still fly, as long as we can remember that we have wings.
